Giving A Great Hand Job

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There are many ways to excite a man, and giving a great hand job is one of them! It's a skilled technique, not just a matter of grabbing his penis and stroking away. The first thing you have to learn is what your man likes. Not everyone likes it the same way. Some like it fast and hard, some like slow and sensual, while other's may prefer something in between. So you will have to communicate (which is always good) with your partner, to find his basic preferences.

Grip is important! If your squeezing the life out of his penis, your going to find a flaccid lump in your hand. Instead of a rock hard play toy. Find what turns him on by starting with a light grip, and increase the amount slowly. When your grip gets to tight, you will know. His penis will get soft, or, he will tell you. Again, communication is the key. It doesn't have to be "clinical" communication, so to speak. Listen to his body language. Is he moaning or thrusting his hips to your hands beat (pun intended)? If he is, then you're on the right track. If he's just lying there, then you might want to try adjusting your grip.

The stroking speed is your next thing that needs to be mastered. Again, this is a personal preference, but isn't all sex a personal preference? You won't want to start off with a stroke that's at blinding light speed. Go just fast enough, to get him hard. Then find a speed that will keep him that way, until you want him to explode. That's when you will want to start increasing speed, without increasing grip. This is where a lot of women make a fatal mistake. I'm sure it's not on purpose, but as they go faster, they tend to start applying a death grip. Remember, the penis is a sensitive organ, of the human body. Treat it with love, or at least a strong lust.

Lubrication is strongly encouraged. A good, quality lube will make a hand job much more enjoyable. It reduces the friction, and opens up more areas of exploration. Use plenty of lube, to give him that nice wet feeling. It gives him the sensation of being inside you! A warming lube will increase this sensation even more. With plenty of lube applied, you can rub his testicles. But remember, these are very sensitive. Don't apply to much pressure, or you will find him wincing in pain instead of pleasure.

The prostrate gland is to man, like the g-spot is to a woman. You can reach this two ways. The first, is to press a finger or two against the area between his testicles and anus. Massage this area using moderate pressure, and some lubricant. Try different ways, small circles, back and forth, up and down, to see what turns him on more. The other way to get to the prostrate gland, is to insert a finger in his anus. You might want to apply a little desensitizing cream, such as Anal-Ese, to the anus first. And definitely lots of lube. I don't recommend a warming type for this, as it could be uncomfortable. You will want to start slowly with this, if you haven't explored anal sex before. Ease your finger inside him, as you continue to stroke his penis. When his sphincter relaxes, you can start massaging the prostrate gland. You'll find it, by pressing your finger towards his testicles. Stroking your finger in and out will also drive him crazy. Be prepared for him to explode at this point. Remember, the prostrate is like a g-spot for men.

Using latex or rubber gloves while giving you man a great hand job can add another perspective to the enjoyment. It also helps with the prostrate massage. Especially for hygienic reasons.

Don't forget to "talk dirty" to him. Tell him how it turns you on, to watch his cock get hard. That you want to see him explode. Tell him how badly you want him to do the same for you. After all, one good turn deserves another. Mutual masturbation can be an awarding sexual encounter. It doesn't always have to be intercourse.



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